Motivational Speaking The Skill of Being A Successful Speaker
I normally wondered what it really could well be like to be a keynote speaker or entertainer.
We have heard it declared that the two biggest fears in your life are talking in front of a substantial audience and falling from a great height. Having said that, then standing at the front of a stage actually talking to a large audience probably makes this career one of the most scary.
Every person has memories of a childhood where sooner or later in time we had been put on the spot to deliver a message or speech at the class. Almost certainly we all remember that sudden dryness in the mouth, cold beads of sweat on our foreheads and a sudden rapid forgetfulness.
How do you overcome these negative attributes of speaking. If you’re a trainer, or a motivational speaker, then you have probably learned to overcome these situations already. then how do you go about recovering from a point where everything seems to have gone south.
The initial thing I advise people to do is to talk to lots of successful speakers and enquire them what their biggest fear is or was and how did they overcome it.
Keeps notes of what you learn and after that study the items that scare you and look through your resource of information to figure out how to solve the problem.
Many people actually enjoy that slightly nervous feeling before walking out on stage and others simply delight in the power from a good audience. Some people are very calm and collected although some appear a little less comfortable in the spotlight.
Like many careers there is an portion of excitement that you can find addictive. Even a chef in a busy kitchen does not always know how the evening is going to turn out and lives on adrenaline at some point during a busy evening. The same can be said to be true about a speaker.
to understand and assist in reducing your fears is that everybody has come to see you. They did not come to see you attempting to be somebody else, simply you. If you are passionate about your topic then frankly you could probably improvise a speech on the spot and entertain a room full of people.
Often times, we are nervous about how will be received because we put unrealistic expectations on ourselves. In reality, we can all benefit from a dose of positive mental attitude which is probably one of the most common talks from speakers.
There are many techniques that one can use to overcome fear. The most important is to focus on the goal. Keep that closing statement in your mind and remind yourself of what you need to finish.
Sometimes the biggest thing we fear is fear itself. Our mind takes a simple and realistic fear and builds a mountain out of a molehill. Breaking down the fear in to component parts is a reasonable way to approach the problem.
Fear is very much a mental game. The former SAS soldier Andy McNabb talks of his capture in Iran and subsequent torture saying that it was simply like a board game and he was not going to let his opponent win. IN his mind he developed the mental toughness and fortitude to not give in to his opponent. He knew they would not kill him but they might break his bones. Those, in time would heal and so Andy knew he would have to face suffering but never defeat.
For us as speakers, we will never have to fear that kind of pressure. The worst case scenario is that we deliver a keynote that is not well received. We may have some damage limitation to do or a reduced fee, but we will never have broken bones or be locked in a horrible jail cell.
Another important area to focus on is getting started. Too many people make themselves uncomfortable by thinking about what could go wrong, yet, when you start you are working in your area of strength. You are a speaker, revel in the opportunity and let people see how good you are. The feedback from a group can be incredible for your conviction so give them the chance to learn from you.
The third area is that you would be greedy to not share your information. Your goal as a speaker is to inspire people or to help them learn. Because of this, your fears are not justified. They could be perceived to be self centred and greedy. Take your eyes off yourself for a moment and think of the people in the audience who’s lives might change because you overcame your fears and got the job done.
Finally – it is important to remember that the more keynotes you do the better you then become. Canada Speakers like Hugh Culver and Linda Edgecombe have been at the top of their game for years. That is because they are well practised. They have done a lot of talks and presentations and have benefitted from the fact that they became very comfortable in the role.
Whatever your fear, you can take comfort from the fact that you will become more practised, more confident and you will be recognized at some point for your expert delivery.