It is often the truth we think that men and women are born lucky or having a champion mindset.
In my experience however despite the fact that genetics may have a small role to play, figuring out how to win is merely a mind set.
There’s a saying that you can’t stop a loser from losing and you can’t stop a winner from winning. I’d say it is actually accurate.
There are lots of folks that I have delivered online coaching to who will listen, make notes, make inquiries, participate in debates yet due to a quitting mindset, they fail to act on any of the information that was delivered to them.
This may not be at all unusual. If it were, there would not be a profession for keynote speakers. Time and again people get back to the same conventions and seminars to have somebody make them feel much better when winning and succeeding has little to do with feeling good.
The individual that wants to feel good, the one that has a champion mindset, will do so despite the pain, discomfort and feelings along the way. Visiting the gym is a prime example for many individuals. If we were honest we would admit that we don’t like going to the gym. I know I personally dislike running. What I do like is the effects of running. The point that I shed pounds, feel healthier and can run faster all lead me to want to continue running.
Life is no different and business is no different. We wish to succeed but in many instances we don’t desire to take the good with the bad.
I would absolutely advise that the bad is what makes the good – “good”. Flowers don’t grow in the desert where the sun shines but the rain never comes. We need the good days to provide contrast for the bad.
So what it take in my mind to win, is to have a commitment to a system. We need to remove the notion that success happens overnight, it does not. The most important step in success may in fact be the last one. The one when we have already climbed several false summits believing the next one is the real one. The step we take to speak to one more investor after several refusals. The one more time we get up to run again and rounding a corner to see the finish line. These are the steps that define success from failure.
Today there is a proliferation of protectionism with our children. There is a strong desire to protect them from losing. The truth is if we never have the option to lose, we never experience the joy of succeeding.
It is a cruel juxtaposition that we are in. The pain of knowing we might lose if we try compared to the relative comfort we have of never trying.
I think if we polled people who were on their final few weeks of life and asked what they would have wished more in their lives, it would have been to accomplish more, to try harder, to have lived more courageously. I don’t believe you would find a person with an adventurous spirit saying they wished they had spent more time in their LayZ Boy recliner watching TV.
If you want to develop a winning mindset, trying yourself not to quit.